Check any points that apply to you
⃝ I am the authority and force my opinion on others, even if it means my showing anger to do so
⃝ I time my angry attacks well. I strike out when the other person is vulnerable, tired, involved in something
⃝ I have a way of arguing that is unbendable. I monopolize the conversation, ignore the feelings of the other person, refuse to listen to the other person, or talk so much that the other person gives up.
⃝ I never forget a sin against me and let my anger build and build until I explode.
⃝ When I am angry, I shout, scream, throw things, hit or become violent.
⃝ I don’t get mad; I get even by getting revenge
⃝ I walk out or refuse to talk after I have become angry. Then the other person has no chance to participate or fight back.
⃝ I use sarcasm or say things that are hurtful to others when I am angry.
⃝ I play people against each other.
⃝ I play a martyr role; I put guilt on others.
⃝ I never accept an apology; I hold a grudge for years if necessary.
⃝ I secretly collect ammunition for my next fight. I go through email messages, wallets, or listen in on phone conversations, so I use that information later against the other person.
⃝ I refuse to talk about my anger; talking would be a waste of time.
⃝ I say things when I am angry that are hurtful and irreversible.
⃝ I share the reasons for my anger with _______________, it will devastate him (or her) to know the truth.
⃝ If others are angry at me, I must fix it or fix them to make everything right.
The more statements you checked, the more unhealthy your way of expressing anger is.